1、延迟满足。比如在看书的时候,关掉手机电脑,平心静气地看书;比如忍受不住美食诱惑的时候,赶紧先睡一觉;或是在一段恋爱关系中,不达到一个提升目标,就忍住不和朝思暮想的对方联系。延迟满足,相当于和自己内心深处的情感欲望作对,所以并不简单。但是我们要看到,很多失败的恋爱和婚姻,都是因为在“情绪管理”这个环节上垮掉。人总是有情绪的,这个情绪有快乐悲伤、也有兴奋激动,可是如果我们在对自己的“情绪”管理失控,不管何时何地都要去频繁纠缠对方,打电话、发信息,甚至去对方家门口堵着,这只能是加剧双方恋爱和情感的裂痕。
2、情绪转换。任何人都有情绪低落和激烈的时刻,但我们要学会调整、缓解。比如把自己的负面情绪全部写在纸上,如果写一遍不行那就多写几遍。归根结底,是要自己找一个出口,然后把坏情绪释放出去;否则过去以往,那些忧郁、悲伤、痛苦和烦闷的一大堆情绪全都憋闷在心里,不但容易生病,感情和生活也都会岌岌可危,毫无安全感。等我们控制好了自己的情绪,那么还需要掌握“揣摩他人情感的洞察力”,也就是感知他人情感的能力。两个人在一起,不管是友情还是恋情,都需要设身处地感知对方的情感、情绪和真实想法。
3、经营我们的情感生活,需要学会爱的语言表达。比如在恰当的时刻,将自己的全部注意力集中在对方身上,让对方感觉自己被重视、被关注,具体做什么并不重要,重要的是花时间营造出一个两人间的精心时刻。提高自己的恋爱情商,可以让我们和恋人相处的时候如沐春风,可如果情商低了,只是喝一杯咖啡,很可能都会觉得度日如年,更何况是谈恋爱呢?在对方情绪低落时,给他/她一个温柔的拥抱,远远胜过千言万语。

1, defer is contented. When reading a book for instance, put out mobile phone computer, calmly ground reads a book; When sufferring cate temptation for instance, sleep first rapidly shut-eye; Or it is to be in relation of a paragraph of love, do not achieve goal of a promotion, keep back the connection of the other side of disaccord yearn day and night. Defer is contented, be equivalent to and the affection desire oppose in him heart, so not simple. But we want to see, the love of a lot of failure and marriage, because be in,be " mood management " break down on this link. The person always has a sentiment, this mood has happy sadness, also have excitement excited, if we are opposite,can be oneself " mood " manage out of control, no matter want why to worry opposite party often when, call, post a letter ceases, go be being blocked up even at the door home of the other side, this can be love of aggravate both sides and affective crack only.
2, mood changeover. Anybody has a sentiment low with intense hour, but we should learn to adjust, alleviate. Write oneself negative sentiment on paper entirely for instance, if be written,be no good that is written a few times more. In the final analysis, it is to want oneself to seek an exit, release bad mood next; Go otherwise before, all of one pile mood of those melancholy, sadness, anguish and be worried is oppressed in the heart, not only fall ill easily, feeling and life also are met be between the beetle and the block, be without safe feeling. Wait for us to had dominated our sentiment, still need to master so " fathom other affective insight " , feel other affective ability namely. Two people are together, no matter be friendship or amour, need be considerate to feel the affection of the other side, mood and true think of a way.
3, the affection that manages us lives, need learns the language expression of love. Be in for instance appropriate hour, focus oneself full attention on body of the other side, let the other side feel he is taken seriously, by attention, specific it what do is not important to what do, important is to spend time to build the elaborate hour that gives a two worlds. Increase oneself amative affection business, mu Chunfeng is like when can letting we and lover get along, but if affection business is small, just drink a cup of coffee, probable metropolis feels one day seems like a year, be Tan Lian love what is more,the rather that more? When mood of the other side is low, give him / she a tender hug, surpass thousands of words far.